Cultivate Your Limitless Capacity to Love

A loving heart is within all of us, a treasure trove of compassion, kindness, warmth, peace and joy.

Love can flow out toward others, or just glow from within us, with no particular recipient in mind and heart, other than the one and all.

Limitless love—is ours to freely nurture and grow into its glorious, boundless abundance.

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Still, I sometimes wonder what this thing called love really is. There’s probably no need to, but sometimes I just want to pin it down so I can better my own loving practice, to be the best lover I can be.

We can all cultivate our limitless capacity to love, right?

I know for sure love is not the limiting three C’s that we sometimes believe it to be—clingy (I need you to love me), conditional (I’ll love you if you do this for me), or controlling (do this or I won’t love you).

This is attachment. And, even though attachment happens (a whole lot), it’s still not something I want or even need to practice. In fact, I want to unpractice it. No, love seems like just the opposite to me.

Love liberates us.

Whether we are feeling calm or surprised, happy or sad, pleased or angry, brave or scared, trusting or wary, generous or greedy, fearless or fearful, vulnerable or hardened, kind or cruel, or anything and everything else in between and all around, love allows us to let **it go and it just lets us be, who we are.

And who we are is love, beneath all the other stuff, of course.

Even while our hearts are tightly squeezed shut, when we’re fretting or regretting over past pains, or worried about the good and plenty problems we’ll face in the future, love is present. It’s right here, right now, right up in our faces and melting into our hearts. No stubborn thought patterns or monkey mind powers can stop it.

Love frees us all.

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them—we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”

Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

When I think about what love brings to us, I just set my intentions on practicing real ways in which I can simply free others to be who they are, to be love.

 Seek Acceptance  Look for the Good  Be Understanding
 Pay Real Attention  Really Listen  Practice Patience
 Be Affectionate  Speak Truthfully  Be Compassionate
 Always Be Kind  Help If You Can  Sincerely Apologize
Offer to Make Amends  Practice Forgiveness  Be Yourself

You know, I was all set to write about how I cultivate love, how I practice being love. But right now, I’m more interested in how you practice being love.

Do you have a real way you practice being love to add to this loving little list? Please share the love, thanks. Sharing is one way we are love. 

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23 thoughts on “Cultivate Your Limitless Capacity to Love

  1. smilecalm

    your teaching helps me touch love, eM.
    love is real.
    when i’m not stopping,
    grasping or pushing it away.
    ethereal as atmosphere
    naturally feeling connected
    to self, others, all.
    not feeling it
    is a wake up bell
    to live :-)

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    1. ♡eM

      Hey there, Smile!
      I agree, love is real. I see and feel evidence of it right now. Your description is so poetic. Love is an atmosphere of connection. And it naturally grows when we live it.
      I appreciate your loving teachings as well.
      Smiles!

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    1. ♡eM

      Hey, Burt,

      Thank you for adding to this little list of loving expressions. Yes, expressing ourselves, including the deeply dark aspects, and being accepted, not judged or compared, is a wonderful way to know love.

      Smiles!

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  2. the dune mouse

    Love is when I let go of the expectations I have of others and accept them as they are- like me, full of contradictions, faults, fears, hopes and sometimes I do this by visualizing them as a little child, we want love, and we are all learning. Here we are in this time and space and it’s scary and wonderful, painful and joyful etc. We are all in this together.

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    1. ♡eM

      Hi, Dune Mouse,
      Wow-za! Expectations sneak up on me all of the time, especially for myself. Each of us is a jumble of stuff, as you’ve written, and it’s good to keep in mind that we’re all on this journey, together. Thanks for chiming in with your wisdom.
      Smiles!

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    2. Stacey

      I love this way of cultivating love and idea that we are one.
      As soon as I changed my attitude towards people to love them for who they were and not what I wanted them to be the relationship changed for the better. Whenever I feel fear or judged I remind myself that “Love did not create this” and it puts me back on the right track.
      Great Post!

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  3. Kelly Kuhn

    Hmmm, I had to work to find another, because your list is terrific – but I did come up with another. Be curious. About what’s really going on in the heart and mind of the other, ourselves, and our relationship (rather than jumping to conclusions).

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    1. ♡eM

      I appreciate this one, but I typically don’t see it as a loving act, but it IS! Wow! When I think of how curiosity opens our minds and hearts, it’s so obvious. Thanks for thinking of it.

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  4. Val Boyko

    We often think of love in terms of romantic love with an other. I love Brene Brown’s work – and how she brings together self love, love of an other and universal love.
    Its all wow-za! Thank you.

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  5. Mariel

    I try to be slow to get angry and choose love when I think someone is trying to hurt me- I just need to remember not all hurt is intentional and that’s where communicating comes in. Thanks for sharing :)

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    1. ♡eM

      Hi, Mariel,
      Wow! Anger, a quite natural and regularly experienced emotion, teaches us so much, but it does tend to bring about quick reactions rather than mindful responses.

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  6. findingease

    Reblogged this on Finding Ease and commented:
    A beautiful post from A Wild One Within . . . and just in time for V-day!
    My current “love” practice? Sending a little love and compassion to those areas in myself I have a tough time accepting.

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    1. ♡eM

      Hello, Finding Ease,
      Thanks so much for sharing my words with your readers. I appreciate sharing. Loving all of ourselves, our wholeness, does help us to acknowledge, accept and appreciate ourselves much more. What a loving practice you have created for yourself.
      Smiles!

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    1. ♡eM

      I don’t think many of us think of love in such simple terms. That’s probably how the joke-like phrase “it’s complicated” got its start. The opposite of confinement in regard to love is wondrous to behold. May we all know it more than enough. Thanks for visiting today and reading my post. Smiles!

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